Feels like forever.
I miss miss miss you guys!
How are you all doing?
I feel so archaic for not been able to write; I mean, it’s been like over 2 weeks now.
Am I forgiven? Yeah, thanks.
I’ve had so many things on my head that I can’t even seem to pen a particular one down. Does that happen to you?
Nonetheless, I had to push myself to write something (I even had to post on social media that a blog post should be up soon, just so I can be held accountable). These things happen. We just have to find our way around them.
Times you don’t feel motivated to do stuffs; you just have to do them. How? Just do them!
You won’t always feel like going all out on your goals. Sometimes the excitement wears off but you just have to remind yourself of where you’re going and why you’re doing what you do.
Just my way of telling you that, “our body likes to lazy around and give excuses, but don’t let it.”
It will respond as long as you make up your mind to act on your goals.
Moving right along.
Lately I’ve been having quite a number of humbling experiences, one of which I would be talking about.
Life exposes us to some things for a reason:
To learn from, improve on, be aware of, to change, to teach others, to make us wise, to reorder our mindset or to expand our mind… Whatever the phenomenon is, we learn from it anyway.
Stay with me, I’m going somewhere.
So, I feel very uneasy of late when I see people in need around me and I can do little or absolutely nothing to help their situation.
Ever been in my shoes? Yeah, that feeling.
I get so disturbed that I start thinking and asking questions like, “why meet people with needs if I can’t help them?”, “why can’t desires and needs be met the moment we have them?”, “why should some people suffer and some other people just enjoy themselves?”…and so on.
Then I realized it’s a good question, a good burden cause such will make you think and have a rethink, make you grateful for what you have, help you see that you’re really not alone in this world and that there’s a lot of people out there who wish they had your life.
There’s a common saying that, “if you exchange your life with those you think have the best lives for only a day, you will find yourself requesting for your life back.”
It means that your situation isn’t that bad. In most case, it is more pleasant than the life of people you believe are enjoying the best life has to offer.
So, love and appreciate your life!
I’ve come to realize that we tend to be really insecure when we don’t have all we need, or when we believe what we have isn’t enough.
You’d see people who ought to be expressive become very reserved and conservative because they feel they’re worth nothing, their opinions and ideas really don’t matter.
Some even hold on to the value they possess, either they feel insecure or they just don’t want to share.
Remember I titled this post “the little detail we don’t pay attention to – giving!”
Now where’s the correlation?
You can’t give when you’re insecure about what you possess.
You can’t give when you believe you don’t have enough.
You can’t give when you’re not happy about the life you have.
You can’t give when situations and circumstances has made you become a rigid and narrow minded person.
You also can’t give when you’re not grateful for what you have.
For example, sometimes ago I had few people around me and of course I knew I had to lend a helping hand, no matter how small it is. I am always happy to do this.
But then I started having some responsibilities that needs to be funded but nothing was forthcoming.
And I started becoming unhappy, almost taking it out on people around me.
Times like that, I love to do what I’m not sent: like arranging the house, washing, cleaning etc. Just to ensure I don’t start acting cocky towards people.
Sometimes I begin to preserve the little things I have which I ought to share with people. Cause I would be thinking in my mind that (what if it gets finished, how will I get another?). That kind of thing.
Do you get what I’m trying to say? Okay, Good.
People become really stingy and unsatisfied when they don’t have more than enough. But do we need to have more than enough before we give?
The lives of so many depend on that little you possess that you’ve refused to share.
The secret to your abundance lies in that little you’re holding on to, only if you can just let it go.
You don’t need to be so rich before you can give. I have even learnt it’s the secret to having more.
Giving does not have to be monetary:
You can give your words of encouragement.
A listening hear.
Your smile and laughter can change the mood of someone who is about to give up on himself/herself.
Your openness can help someone who is struggling with timidity break out of his or her shell.
Life was not given for hoarding, but for expression. And in expressing, we give, we share.
In expressing, your little goes a long way in saving others from their misery.
“You can’t lack what you give the most.”
I have seen this work in my life that’s why I can say it.
Most times we clamour over the things we do not have, but the lesson life is trying to teach us is that we should give the little we have.
My spiritual father usually says, “there’s a seed in everything you have.”
But in most cases, we consume both our harvest and the seed.
The morale of my yadda yadda is:
- Don’t wait until you have more than enough before you can share the little you have.
- Make up your mind to be a giver, rather than being a receiver. “It is more honourable to give than to receive”
- Be happy with yourself and everything you have and do not have.
- Be compassionate.
- Giving starts from a sincere heart and an open mind.
- Give out what you think you lack the most. It doesn’t have to be money alone.
- In helping others we help ourselves.
- The law of sowing and reaping is a constant – what you sow, you reap.
- Let people say you have plenty that’s why you love to share. You will get all the blessings while they keep watching and talking.
- Give upward too: to those who have more than you do. God has everything, yet He teaches us the principle of giving because it’s the way to receiving.
- Giving is a way of expressing our love. Giving is loving; loving is giving.
We are not perfect but we learn these things on our journey.
Now you know why you’re so burdened to pray for someone, or why you’re usually moved with compassion and surrounded by people you need to share with.
It’s an opportunity, not a burden. Neither is it an obligation.
The next time you become very protective of something you have; that might be an indication of letting it go.
One last example.
Someone gave me a wristwatch which I loved very much. Then a friend asked for it and I gave it to her. I became “wristwatchless”. I know it’s not in the dictionary but you know what I mean. Lol.
After about few months later, a friend gave me another beautiful wrist watch, then I received a more beautiful one as a birthday gift.
I became really fond of the one I received as a birthday gift. In fact, am not sure I could give it out to anyone. It was really beautiful and attractive too. A lot of people admired it.
Right when I was beginning to finally feel like I had something I can’t let go of, it was really impressed in my heart to sow it. So I did and it’s gone.
I almost said no to that thought, but maybe a better one is coming or God is trying to teach me a lesson.
Don’t hold on too tightly. Let it go (I am literally singing “Let it go” from Frozen). Wink… When you refuse to let go, things become boring, redundant, or maybe idolized.
I am sending my love out to you guys.
PS: Sharing is giving as in this case. Like, comment and share.
Also I’m compiling the #iamstrong campaign story. If you have any insecurity story, amazing experience you’ve had and you feel can inspire and we can learn from. Don’t hesitate to contact me; send me a mail (firstname.lastname@example.org), or reach me through any of my social media platforms. I can’t wait to hear it. 😘