Learning to {Love You}


Most of the time, we hear things like “Love people, Show love to others, Celebrate people”, and we try to express this love in our own way even when it sometimes doesn’t come from our heart.

Have you had to smile back to someone you don’t even like? You see how hard you try to fake that smile. I’ve been there.

Especially in the church environment where we are encouraged not to turn people off with our expressions. If you’re a singer like me, you’d have to learn how to smile regardless of if you’re hurting or not.

You’d encourage people to worship, sing, dance, jump or just smile, whereas, you probably just finished crying & soaking your pillow at home.

This is true!

Loving others is learning to see beyond you & your needs!

This is also what we’re being taught.

But a part of the scripture says;

“Love your neighbor as yourself”

Meaning that, the only way you can truly love other people is when you’ve been able to truly love you.

In loving you, you’d have come to understand yourself, your emotions, the kind of things you like & hate. You don’t beat yourself up unnecessarily. You celebrate yourself. You care about prospering spiritually, emotionally & physically. You don’t neglect your health. You pay attention to the details of your life.

Now this sounds good right?

But do we always fulfill all of these? Some people have bottled up emotions that will continue to restrain them from prospering emotionally.

This might be due to bad experiences, and usually common with ladies.

I’ve had to lose weight seriously at some point because my emotions were eating me up. Like I wasn’t fine. I hated myself. I hated the person that caused me so much pain. I hated the fact that I couldn’t hear anything during that season of my life. I just hated my process! Imagine someone asking me to love another person at that state of mine.


How then can you forgive other people when you’ve not learnt to forgive yourself?

How can we love other people when we don’t love ourselves?

To continue in a relationship that is draining you, rather than adding to you is a catastrophe. And a proof you don’t love your well being.

When we love ourselves, we’d know what it means for another person to be hurting. And this helps in understanding people too, cause you’ve been able to understand yourself.

More like a learning process of You trying to understand Others by understanding You.

Don’t try to fake love and give what you don’t truly have.

Rather, learn to find that love in understanding you. Then and only then will you be able to give out of the abundance of the love that you have.

It’s like a stream.

It just flows out effortlessly.

You’d just find yourself happy with people, not taking offences, not holding grudge, etc.

It comes from loving you.

Shout out to every lady that is doing everything to be emotionally healthy cause when our emotions are not right, we diffuse bad energies.

Let’s pay attention to ourselves, too.

I love to love you guys,


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PS: Will continue this discussion in another post.

4 thoughts on “Learning to {Love You}

  1. An interesting discussion is worth comment. I think that you should write more on this topic, it might not be a taboo subject but generally people are not enough to speak on such topics. To the next. Cheers

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